This post is for pisces men. I have been fwb in a long distance friendship for 18 months. We've talked at length about our kinks, practiced some and had intimate personal conversations about his and my life. Logistically we are too far away to see each other often. When we do talk, it's like we never stopped. It's been magnetic chemistry from the moment we met. To the point it's eerie how we connect, because I'm hella cautious and am not able to banter with anyone like I do with him. It's unique and he "says" it's the same for him.

The problem: A few weeks ago we were logistically close enough to see each other. He initiated contact with me saying he wanted to get together. Talked about the things sexually we wanted to experience again, it was erotic. I shared I had to make arrangements for my kids, not at all easy to do and still travel a few hours to see him. He understood I had to move mountains and it may not happen. This time when we conversed, I told him I like pushing emotional boundaries and am able to play without catching romantic feelings. Another site I'm on I posted about the ability to do this and get lost in the moment, but days later I'm fine. It's the 2nd time he and I have had this conversation. He agreed he wanted to try this and was excited at the thought. He was ALL in.

The next day came, I moved mountains, texted I was coming to see him that evening. We are both executives, very demanding careers and he was on a high stress, career promoting trip. It was a normal work week for me, so I offered to come to him. 10 min later he said he was sorry but he could not do what we talked about the night before. Come what may with the consequences he just couldn't. He was apologetic, thought I would be angry. It was a complete turnaround from the night before. Said he didn't know what was going on in his brain, but he couldn't go through with it.

I was disappointed but didn't tell him that. I was NOT angry and shared he had a right to change his mind and set boundaries. I felt as though he might actually really romanticly like me and this type of play had the potential to be emotionally intense to the point it scared him. So, I gave him space and backed off until he was back home. I was worried so I reached out to make sure I hadn't crossed a line and he was alright. If I owed him an apology I wanted the chance to give it. He said none was needed that his 6th sense kicked in and his work was going to be really intense and the reason he backed off due to focus.

That made me upset, again he doesn't know this...yet. It was a different answer than "not knowing what was going on in his brain" the day he backed off.

My question: Am I being played like a fiddle or is it possible he really doesn't want me to see he could have feelings and is testing me to see what I do with his bad qualities like some pisces men are known to do?