Update: I've since recorded a gender neutral version you can listen to here.

(tw: abuse, abusive relationship)

This is a non-romantic comfort audio for female survivors of an abusive relationship (presumably a romantic one) with a man. If you have anxiety, PTSD or self-esteem issues, it may be helpful for you. It doesn't mention physical abuse but may be appropriate for people who have experienced that, and is appropriate for relationships that contained mental or emotional abuse. This audio is intended for people who have already left an abusive relationship. If you are still in an abusive relationship, please visit http://www.thehotline.org to get help.

This is a slightly edited-down version of a custom audio that was commissioned by someone who would prefer to remain anonymous, but she gave her permission to upload this for other people's benefit.

I strongly recommend you read the script to this audio so you can make an informed decision about whether this audio is appropriate for you or not. You can do so here.

In brief, I calm you down and assure you that you're safe, that everything is okay. I tell you that you're a good person, that you're strong and brave, even if you don't feel that way. I remind you that you are not responsible for his lies, his actions or the things he made you feel or believe. None of it was your fault, it was his. It's normal to be hurting after something like this, and it will take time to heal and recover. I tell you to be kind to yourself and be patient, not to expect too much of yourself. You aren't in danger anymore, he isn't around, and if he does come around, you're in a better place with a better support system and the wisdom not to fall for his tricks again.

I build you up, telling you that you're a strong and beautiful person whose opinion matters and whose needs come first. You don't need his approval. You are important, intelligent, valuable, kind, loving, you try your hardest and none of that is dependent upon him. I reassure you that you were right to leave him, that you're going down the right path and that I'm proud of you. I finish up by telling you that you can do this and that I believe in you.

You can listen to the audio on Youtube or on Soundgasm if you'd like.

If you found this audio helpful, I'd love for you to leave me a comment or private message letting me know! If you'd like to find more of my audios, you can do so at my subreddit /r/msa_andeh.