Every so often I get this idea into my head that if I just put myself out there in the most authentic way I can, it will act as bat-signal attracting my perfect match, so lets give this another whirl. I find it a bit hard to be detailed and “concise” with the tone not being overly serious (Which is not me at all), so here, have some zany emojis to balance the general vibe: 🤪😬🤪😬🤪😬🤪😬🤪😬

I’ve always found it fascinating that PH has such a huge r4r community(wait wtf, why is PHr4r banned?), so since I plan to be in Manila around Nov 11-17th wanted to make a post here. One thing I want to make clear is that I am not just looking for like a tour guide or a travel fling. What I would hope for and the best case outcome is to find a life partner 🥹 Finding that person is unlikely and hard, but if it happens living in Manila vs Prague is a very small thing to overcome in comparison.

Me

I’m a 35 Year old Norwegian currently living in Prague. I’ll be Writing most in depth about myself. Hopefully through that you get some idea of what I'm like and can decide if I would vibe with you :]

Useful things I spend my time on

• I Have a great career in the Tech/Startup World. I get to be a part of building something I am proud of ^_^
• I have a Youtube channel where I post about self development type things. It has been a while since i posted actively but getting back into it now. I don’t think I can link it but it should’t be hard to find and you can see what I look like there.
• I generally like learning new things. Trying to learn piano and will hopefully start learning Japanese soon (want to live in Tokyo for some period in the future).
• Reading, Fitness (lifting / running / yoga), Nutrition, Meditating. Just generally working towards being my best self is an important part of my life.

Leisure things I spend my time on (ordered from best to worst :D)

• Already mentioned Reading above, but I guess reading fiction can go here.
• I love travelling even if I don't do it much for my own sake at the moment, but still end up travelling like every other month. This trip to Manila is the first time in a while I’m just going there without friends, family, work or some event inviting me.
• Gaming has always been something I enjoy. I no longer take the time to play endless online timesinks but there is generally a couple of single player games I’m excited about (most recently I’ve been playing Stardew Valley and Factorio) and playing couch multiplayer games with family or friends is peak leisure 😬
• I like Anime. I obviously watch other things as well but saying "I watch netflix" feels a bit daft.

Socially

• I firmly identify as an ambivert. I do well in social situations and being 'on' for any length of time doesn't wear me out. But I also don't really get lonely and can easily go like a month just focusing on my own things and not meeting up with anyone.
• Right now I am focused on my career and own projects. So I'm mostly hermit mode when i'm not travelling. Think I will look into changing than soon though.
• Online and chatting has always been an important part of my social life. I have many people I consider very close friends but only one of them lives in Prague who I see very rarely.

Personally

• I'm very good at being my best self most of the time, but then very bad at it some of the time.
• I generally don’t get mad, offended, insecure, sad or whatever else. High confidence and pretty stable emotionally.
• Positive, friendly, authentic, open (open about myself, to other people, new ideas, being wrong, etc).
• Feels weird to describe my positive qualities in this way but here we are 🙈

Romantically

• I Like to lean into emotions and romance when the opportunity presents itself.
• It's easy for me to have a good flirty vibe with someone, having a mutual attraction and enjoy spending time with them. But for me there is a big gap between that and wanting to have a relationship and building a life together (which has only happened once).
• That being said I’m generally optimistic and a bit of a Romantic and always hopeful that the next person I connect with is that person.

Us

One thing that always feels off about these posts (especially if someone is looking for something serious), is how it puts weird expectations on where things are going. First and foremost just want to meet someone new who likes my vibe and take it from there :] Odds are we end up as just friends or drift apart which is fine. That being said.

• Text/Chatting is important to me, so should be something you are down with as well.
• I'm fine with calls if we really hit it off, but not something I'm looking to spend much time on right away.
• I'm generally responsive (and as you can probably tell, write a lot 😬). But I'm also busy so need to appreciate the balance here. Often I’ll be able to have longer conversations, but some days I’m just busy and don’t want a person who thinks that my responsiveness from day to day reflects on them.
• Where you are doesn't really matter. Distance is a pretty small problem compared to finding the right person. Or well this post sort of assumes you are in Manila but I guess if you are from wherever can still reach out.

You

All the obvious things would be nice (chemistry, attraction, intelligence, good vibes), but other than that think its important to me that the other person is ambitious and inspires me in some way. That you care about improving yourself, have your own things you are passionate about. This doesn’t have to be about a career or success, it could be about helping others or art or whatever, just that you have something you care about and that makes you push yourself.

I want a dynamic where we actively bring out the best in each other. Something where we want to be our best selves to make the other person proud and live up to their expectation. Other things:

Personally

• Be able to hold your end of a conversation
• Age doesn't matter. Just not significantly older than me for long term reasons.
• Open and authentic so we can hopefully speed up the getting to know each other part :]
• Laid back and friendly, someone who generally interprets other people charitably.

Red Flags (for me)

These are not necessarily dealbreakers, just some things I have noticed that makes it a bit harder to commit.

• I'm very rational, so less likely to mesh with someone who puts a lot of stock into paranormal or horoscope type things.
• Not being open to new experiences. Its Good if you are down for adventures or spontaneous things.
• But also not too adventurous. Someone who doesn't need to do something new and exciting every day.
• Not having kindness as one of the more important attributes you try to cultivate.

Reaching Out

• Don't worry about matching the length or detail of my post.
• Send a message with some basic details about you (bonus point for picture :] )
• Share something that vibed with you from my post and something you are passionate about.
• Be ok with moving elsewhere quickly (Telegram, Whatsapp, Disord in that order of preference).
• And yeah if we hit it off online would be cool to meet up when in Manila ^_^