Somewhere along the line I read that relationships are the most successful when people have a shared set of beliefs, so here’s a sample of mine: I believe we all do better when we all do better. I believe in a thing called love. I believe our history defines who we are but does not dictate who we become. I believe family is an earned title. I believe 'Fix You' may be the best song ever written.

Fine, I’ll jump into that next. I suppose I started where I did because this part is harder for me to elaborate on. I remember when I was first learning about BDSM and all the associated terminology and I was trying to figure out what I was supposed to call myself. Somehow I’m back in that place. Dom? Daddy? Soft Dom? So let’s walk through it together, shall we?

I like control, so I know I’m somewhere in the dominant end of the spectrum. I enjoy position training, rewards and punishments, assigning tasks, making rules to help my sub.

I like impact play, usually prefer to use my hand or a belt, but have been known to bust out a crop, or a flogger. Does that make me a sadist? I like using nipple clamps too, so maybe?

I like being the safe, protected space for my submissive. Offering guidance, advice, or just a hug. So maybe I’m a Daddy? I have no interest in age regression though. So maybe not? But being called Daddy both warms my heart and turns me on, so maybe?

I have a long list of kinks (likes?) but here’s the condensed version of the ones I haven’t already mentioned: exhibitionism, voyeurism, lingerie, cnc, orgasm control, roleplay, others that I'm blanking on right now but I’m open to lots so feel free to ask about anything specific that gets you going.

So I think that brings me to you. What am I looking for other than someone that identifies with some or all of the above?

Someone extroverted but appreciates a quiet night at home with a good book. Someone that embraces the city life but appreciates the middle of nowhere. Someone who can both give and take, someone sweet and caring who also sends me the filthiest texts during the day about what we’re going to do at night. Life’s about balance, right?

I suspect that this would work best if you’re in the 20-45 range (although if you’re outside of that feel free to message, I’m not discounting the possibility)

We don't have to talk about sexual stuff all the time if you're having a bad day I'll be here for you. I don't prefer chatting on reddit so I'll ask you to switch soon. If you have read this far send me a picture of yourself and tell me a fact about yourself. Have a wonderful day/night :)