Andami kong nababasa rito about looking for their "constants" and mga nagagalit dahil sa mga ghoster.

While there's nothing wrong with looking for a constant in itself, medyo magkakaroon ng pressure sa both parties to maintain a close friendship, kahit na hindi pa sila magkakilala.

Regarding ghosters, maraming rason kung bakit bigla nalang hindi nagpaparamdam ang isang tao. Posibleng may pinagdadaanan sila, posibleng ayaw nila sayo, posibleng may mali kang ginawa. Either way, we are not entitled to an explanation. (Disclaimer: my previous statement does not apply to people na biglang nawawala after may plano and schedule na magmeetup. Fuck those guys. At least magsabi ka kung hindi ka na tutuloy.)

Posible rin na ayaw lang talaga nila makipag-usap sayo in the meantime and may balak silang bumalik kapag feel na nila.

As to why ayaw nila magsabi when it's not working out, there are many reasons for that as well. Some just don't want to bother, and yes that's quite shallow, but wala naman tayong magagawa. Some probably have a sense (or baka nagsususpect) na medyo sensitive or insecure ka, and you might deem an announcement of their departure as some sort of rejection.

Anyway, my point is, let people leave. Okay lang kung ayaw nila sayo, or kung ayaw ka nilang kausapin (in the meantime, or maybe in general). It doesn't necessarily mean na may mali sayo or may mali sa kanila. Baka hindi lang talaga kayo click. It is far more of a waste to spend time with people na ayaw naman pala sayo.

Give people space. Kung gusto mo maging friends with someone, open your heart but don't force them inside. Kung gusto nila, they will stay.

I'm not posting this to judge you, but to give you something to think about. I have been rejected over and over again, and I have rejected some people, too. A lot of people have left without saying goodbye. Some people have kept in touch but hindi kami nag-uusap as often as we used to. When I was younger, I really took it to heart. I thought na may mali kapag someone I considered my friend wouldn't respond agad-agad. But guess what? We all have our lives, and the quality of my friendships has drastically improved when I realised I wasn't always entitled to anyone's time.

Anyway, daz all lol bye