Hoping for an advise or maybe read your own experience. :)

My boyfriend and I (both 23) are together for 18 months already. Out kami sa family namin even before being together. The relationship is going well despite the pandemic. I kinda (or not even kinda) not like his family. The way they treat me is awkward for my pov.

First na punta ko sa kanila was meant to be a surprise drop by lang kay bf kasi matagal na kami di nagkita due to ECQ. Sa baba at labas lang ako ng condo nila naghintay. We ate dinner sa McDo nearby but nagchat si Mother niya na akyat daw ako. I gathered my courage and even brought some pasalubong na donut to them, typical Filipino trait.

I was expecting na they would interrogate me about my family background, work, serious ba ako sa anak nila or anything but I was wrong. His father didn't even talked to me straight, he just watched K-Drama sa sala while ako nakaupo sa dining table with his mother in front of me and him beside me. Nagsmile naman sila but wala pang 1 minute ang talk ko with her. I tried to open some topic but to no avail. Mother and Father talked about the K-Drama instead. Thus, nagstay na lang ako ng kaunti sa kwarto ni bf with his younger brother. I felt a cold treatment from them.

Second time but it's still the same, dumaan lang kami doon to leave some of his things. Nahurt ako nang hindi ako pinagmano ni father. Wag na raw. But I recently learned na yung bf ng ate niya, nakakamano.

I find this different from how warm our family is. When he went in our home during Christmas, kinuwento na ni Papa yung buhay niya. Mama is nahihiya but she smiles and sometimes join the talk. The way my family treated him is kinda what I was hoping for my case.

I don't want to come in their house again. He is inviting me to spend this Christmas with them but naiisip ko na ma-out of place lang ako or even worse mapahiya. I somehow want to strike a balance na may ginawa ako to be close with them but ayoko rin masaktan ako further.