Hey everyone! I’m a 29-year-old guy, and lately, I’ve been thinking about changing up my look. Here’s the thing—I seem to attract younger bottom guys more often than guys closer to my age or older, which is what I’d actually prefer.

A bit about me: I’m 5’6, skinny-fat (but my build’s not bad thanks to genetics), fair-skinned, and I’ve got a shaved head because, well, genetics again. I grow a beard pretty easily, though I usually shave it off. People tend to assume I’m a top, but honestly, I’m not.

The guys who message me are often really great, and I’ve made some good friends that way. But it hasn’t been leading to the kind of connection I’m looking for. I’ve started going to the gym recently to work on myself, and I feel good about that.

I’m wondering if tweaking my style, look, or vibe might help me attract the kind of guys I’m into. I’d love to send some photos for more specific feedback, but I guess DMs would be better for that.

Have any of you been in a similar situation? How did you navigate it? I’d really appreciate any tips or advice!