Im gonna preface this with saying na most of the struggles I will mention does not mean I see it as something inherently bad. Its because of the sad reality that society doesn't see it as something that is desirable.

Alam naman siguro natin ung meme na "Pick a struggle". Its like andami kong options for a struggle pero pinili ko lahat kasi I want to live life Hardcore mode HAHAHA. First of all Im happy being queer and Im happy with who I am pero Id be lying if I said na these things dont affect my day to day life. I am a 23yo Nonbinary (AMAB) who is in the gray-asexual spectrum. From that statement alone you can imagine my struggle when it comes to dating. First of all being a nonbinary amab who is attracted to men. Most of the time if not all the time most guys I try to talk to gets scared of the terms. They automatically assume na its just a glorified term for being femme which is so stupid. Although my expression is non-conforming, this masc4masc dating meta is so frustrating to me especially with my identity. Next is me being gray-asexual. Its another term people get scared of when I tell them about my sexuality. They assume na im just ace and thats it which is not totally true. I have a very complicated relationship with sexual activities in general and it affected how I become sexually attracted to someone. Its so sad madalas when I have to preface conversations with "im not a h*rny type of person". Most of the guys Ive talked to kasi will steer the convo to an NSFW topic one way or another or will try to get my noodles or get me in a vc to do nasty stuff. Aaminin ko naman I have a twink body type which I understand is hypersexualized pero pls wag ako. Another struggle I have is my face card and my gender expression. If I have to rate myself I give myself a 4/10. Im pretty sure other people would agree. Obvious naman na most people in the queer dating scene values face value over anything. Ive rolled my eyes so much from guys telling me na "I dont base my attraction on looks" to the point na baka makita ko na loob ng ulo ko HAHAHA. Alam ko namang there are some people there who would appreciate my personality over my looks and how I present myself. These are just base level things that I noticed throughout my dating life. I am hopeful parin naman na I will meet that person who accepts me wholly for who I am. Pero dzaym my dating pool is more like a dating puddle T_T