The more time I spend observing other LGBT subs, the more I notice this disturbing thing that’s happening—a situation that many within the community seem very eager to engage in willingly.

Being sex-positive and hypersexual is one thing, but to normalize cheating and even worse, turn it into a kink? It’s beyond comprehension. I see men with wives or girlfriends posting in r4r and other hook-up subs casually mentioning their so-called “commitment” to these women as if it’s something to brag about. For what? To come off as more masculine? And then you have gays flocking to them, lining up like they’re some kind of rare prize the moment words like “discreet” and “masculine” are thrown around.

When did we become so complacent, so tolerant, of something so obviously wrong? What the hell happened to us? Is this really the type of community we want to take pride in?