June is Pride Month. I know it's supposed to be happy and celebratory, with a dash of activism in fighting for the rights of everybody in the LGBTQIA community. But is it just me, or do any of you here not feel like celebrating it?

Don't get me wrong—I stand with and support the gay community in fighting for our rights. After all, I am a gay man myself. But do I feel like celebrating with the rest of the community? Hell no.

I just think a lot of gays are generally very mean and judgmental, especially towards other gays. Many groups have clique-ish dynamics, not to mention the prevalence of the Regina George complex, which I find really distasteful. Honestly, I've even dreamed of having my own gay group of friends that I can just have fun and be happy with, but I find it quite difficult because it feels like there's an internal competition going on with many gays in the community.

Don't even get me started on how unwelcome I personally felt when I first partied at Nectar. Some of the other gay guys I've chatted with have had awful experiences in other gay (and supposedly safe) establishments as well, where they either got groped or had their drinks spiked. There's also Grindr, where good manners and proper conduct seem to be non-existent. Plus, there's the issue of internalized homophobia and the palpable divide between masculine and feminine gays. Is this really the kind of community I want to celebrate with? I think not.

Bakit ba hindi na lang tayo pwede maging friends at mag-baklaan lahat?