I have been with my girlfriend for a few years now and i noticed that lately she rarely wants to cuddle after sex.

I’m a femme bottom and she’s a stemme top. We are both in our mid 30s and our sex life as far as i know is average for a long term lesbian couple. We have sex at most 4 times a month.

However, no matter how good the sex was the routine for us stays the same. Right after sex instead of hugging until we fall asleep she would prefer to sleep like a soldier without our body touching.

Maybe it’s because I’m a bottom but i really crave the aftercare. This evening we had sex for an hour, i never got to taste her once (she rarely wants to get serviced). It was all one sided (me receiving) but right after sex was over and washing up she went straight to sleep without even hugging me..

So here i am typing away in Reddit.. curiously asking if your partners act the same way. I know my partner loves me. She tells me this everyday and kisses me before going to work or leaving the house (i work remotely). But I’m really curious if this is normal behavior for long term couples