So as I've observed with my past dates, I was able to conclude na it's my love language to spoil my ka-date. Like, I'd pick him up and drop him off door-to-door whenever we had dates, or buy small gifts, treat out dinner, etc.

Eto din kasi yung same love language ko sa friends. So I tend to do the same for someone I'm dating. Ang nakikita kong problem, I used to do it as early as day 1 ng talking stage and I feel like dahil dun parang nate-take advantage ako huhu. Like even if ako yung inaya makipag date, ako yung nag babayad ng bill. I mean it's not a problem naman for me, I just feel like I'm really vulnerable to be taken advantage of without my knowledge.

Even though I like doing it, one of my past dates kasi have told me "wala sayo yung qualities na gusto ko pero I feel secured pag nanjan ka, lalo sa estado mo. Iyan din advice ng friend ko. I'll learn to like you eventually" parang nadulas lang sya pero ganun yung gist.

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Dami kong sinabi, pero the question is. Paaaaaano? Like, pano ba hindi ma take advantage and makita ng ka-date ko yung worth ko as a person and not superficial like baka magustuhan lang ako for what I can give lang? I'm not actively dating anyone naman, I just wanna change for the better sa susunod kong idedate hahaha.