but a secret, other third thing ??

I (27F) have talked to my friends about this and a few of us don't really feel like labeling the way we present ourselves as masc or fem or androgynous or any of that. Basta yun. Halata.

Personally I've never really been feminine, even when I had longer hair, but I wouldn't say I'm masculine enough to be "masc" either. Even when I get called "sir" often by accident or even if people can easily clock me as gay, even if I like being called pogi as much as I like being called pretty. I like to say I'm a babygirl in boy clothes, and I describe my ideal hair as "not short hair in a girl way, but long hair in a boy way" (although I've been growing it out and I love where it's at rn)

I've asked myself is it because I don't have a flat chest? Is it because I'm not skinny? Or because I'm short? But even when I was slimmer I never really felt strongly in either direction.

Though this does seem to be part of my struggle in dating since these days people seem to have a preference. (I don't have a preference, basta taller with a decisive personality huhu)

At my lowest I felt torn between being comfortable with who I am and being desirable — to be more femme or more masc, to fit in a box, but I'd rather be me pa rin talaga.

Anyone else on the same boat?