I matched with a guy on Tinder, and we switched to Telegram to chat where we really hit it off. After about a week, we decided to meet up since we were both working from home that day. I went over to his place, and honestly, he’s a really nice, fit, and smart guy. He’s from one of the big 4. We shared quite a bit about ourselves, getting to know each other. We’re both aware that we’re not exclusively dating yet; he’s healing from a breakup, while I’m just trying to put myself out there.

While we were talking and sharing personal things, I mentioned a recent depressive episode where I stopped eating. I even showed him a photo from a few months ago, and he made comments like, “Wow, you’re really thin, you should eat more. I was surprised to see you so slim in real life.” He also commented on my skin color, something I’m insecure about due to past traumas. When I shared this with him, he remarked, “What if I teased you about your skin color?” I explained that it wouldn’t make me happy, but he seemed dismissive.

I also talked about my job and how I unwind by watching TikTok videos after work. His response was, “Is that all? You should work out.” I feel like he means well, but his comments are causing me to feel body dysmorphia. He even made a snarky comment about me being single for 10 years, as if it’s the worst thing imaginable. I’m not sure if I’m overly sensitive, but his remarks are bothering me. I wish he’d be kinder with his comments, especially since they touch on sensitive topics for me. I can’t help but overthink his remarks and wonder if I’m just not attractive enough. Do you think I’m wrong to feel hurt by his comments?