Well, I had this on my mind for a while, and a lot would probably just say "You are lucky that you are popular", but I noticed the huge fetisished of white guys. And to a degree I have a hard time trusting anyone. It comes a point where it goes from "How fun to get 200 messages", so "Is he real of fake".

Having been back and forth to the PH for about 15 years, I noticed guys getting more and more agressive on messages. Before people was a bit more discreet, but now people will lie and cheat to get attention. When I say "I am looking for friends", then I am really looking for friends, and not a hookup.

This is one of the reasons why many like me is quite lonely in this community. From the outside in, it looks like its the perfect storm, in my benefit. A lot of attention.

Then ask yourself. A lot of attention for what? Its defentliy not my looks, as I am not good looking. Its it my personality? By the messages it doesnt look like they are interessted in knowing it. Is it friendship? Well are you a friend when you cant be trusted?

What do people think? That white guys have something special? Based on porn? Thats just stupid!

I have tried the friend game over and over again, filtering several houndred messages where my only goal is to have someone to talk to and hopefully get to know better. I do not want 50 friends. I just want 1-2 good friends, and then I am happy with that.

I am quite a loner, I dont party, I dont smoke, I dont drink, I dont cheat, I dont hookup. Even if I say it in every post I make, people still send unwanted photos, texts, or any other things.

A lot of Asians complain about that asians are fetisished abroad, and yes that is true. Asians are treated horrible abroad, face a feeling of not being wantet, except old white men and people who really want to date cause of the excotic asian impression. But this is exactly what a lot of white guys are experiencing in PH too.

So I really extend a hope; If someone say they are looking for friends, then dont send a message trying to get something more. Its playing with peoples feelings, peoples trust and patience.

I do believe it does exist people here that is genuine, and I really wonder where they are.