Hi everyone. So I'm not sure if I'm a traditional finsub. I'm definitely a sub . . . But the whole drains/send thing makes me feel really bad actually. I like to arrange custom content and tip spontaneously. Absolutely no judgment; I know it's really erotic for people . . . And I understand I have some kinks/fetishes that are particular. It's what led me to findom subreddits a lot of Alphas hang out there. All that said last night I was lonely and let's be honest horny . . . Two doms contacted me, which is always flattering, they seemed eager to do my customs. Now I know ultimately I'm at fault. I didn't ask for any kind of verification. They had very little karma etc. But I send the $ and they disappear. And now I just feel so . . . Sad, empty, ashamed, very wary of ever trying anything like this again. Hope it's okay to tell this. I can't talk to anyone IRL about it.