My (33m) wife(30w) recently gave birth. Except it was very premature. 25 weeks and they are in NICU, as per order of operations. 1 boy 1 girl, and they are adorable and I couldnt be more proud. Where I feel my uselessness is we just learned that our boy is anemic and is bleeding into both hemispheres or his brain, grade 3 and 4. Our girl is shifting between intebation and extabation. We can't do anything, aside from giving permissions for transfusions and my wife is blaming herself because she couldnt last till full term. I'm giving emotional support for her as best I can, but I feel like it doesn't do anything to really help the problem. I'm terrified to lose my kids, I'm terrified my wife will break, I'm terrified I'll rage and break everything. And yet I'm irrely calm. Is all this normal?