EDIT: Thank you to everyone who contributed and to those who educated me about this in many ways. I definitely don't want to put them at risk. And to those who judged me for asking the question, it's not always easy envisioning a life you've never lived, and there is no shame in being curious and wanting to hear from people who have been there. They always have a unique story to tell.

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We are considering surrogacy and twins is something we may go with because we can't afford 2 surrogacies. I have always pictured myself connecting with my first child and devoting a lot of attention to them. I see that as a way to build a great bond and overall feel an even greater love for them because I develop that bond. I'm just curious what your experience was and/or your thoughts on this, especially if you had a singleton and later had twins (since you can more easily compare).