My mom decided to leave my dad about 8/9 years ago. She cheated on him and began to demonstrate symptoms of schizophrenia (3rd party professional diagnosis from describing her behavior to my “shrink”). She has not been able to keep a job pre-COVID as all she does is talk to her digital devices (not actually talking to anyone). She was on unemployment for almost a year when the pandemic happened and got extended by that. She hasn’t worked in almost 4 years. She was evicted from her apartment a couple weeks ago and I agreed to store her life so it wasn’t all gone (she had stuff that belonged to my late grandma and some other family valuables). Now that she is homeless and is reaping the fruits of ALL her poor choices, she is trying to get me to rescue her.

When she left, I bought her and my dad’s house and he and my kid sister still live with me. He contributes to the operation/maintenance of the house. If I bring my mom in, I’m basically telling him to leave and I am not going to ask him to do that. She won’t do ANYTHING in the house as that’s what she did years ago, she won’t work (she views it as her SOLE responsibility to raise my sister), and I will be forced to support the house alone which I’m unable to do at this time.

She has taken money from me (spent directly and indirectly on my cards without permission or being told no) has brushed me off when I tell her something is wrong with her, and presses me constantly when I’ve made my decisions and given her my reasons. I am trying to look after my sister first and foremost, my dad and then me. My mom made her decisions and now it’s time to pay the bill.

I feel TERRIBLE for her situation but I didn’t make it and I feel bad that I can’t help without a slew of other bad consequences befalling me and what’s left of my family unit.

Am I in the wrong on this one? I feel like it’s a no-win scenario and I need to pick the route with the least collateral damage