I've seen many comments on here, replying to posts talking about their kids' rudeness, laziness, etc. The comments say it's just a phase.

Why is it just a phase? Why do these kids think it's ok to act like that to parents who love them and are trying to help them?

For instance, my almost-teenager wanted to buy some clothes from an online store that has a few locations here in SoCal. I know they probably won't fit based on the size chart, so I suggested we go in person and that will save on shipping costs, get the clothes sooner, and actually see if they'll fit beforehand.

Wooo you'd think I just asked them to do 10 pages of homework with the attitude I got in return! "What if they don't have what I want? What if the dressing rooms are closed? I can just return them if they don't fit if I buy them online." (Sorry sweetie, but that's extra time and $ I don't want to put into doing)

Seems like every interaction is met with snippy remarks or negativity. Whyyyyy? No matter what I do to try and make my kid understand how they talk to others, it doesn't work.

Soooo over it. ETA: I never talked to my parents like this. I was a teenager around 1994-1999 and never felt the need to talk to my parents like that, even though I didn't get along with them in my mind (they didn't raise me per se, they just took care of me and my siblings just enough so they wouldn't go to jail or get a CPS call).