I apologize in advance for the length of this post but I have to get it all out.
So my daughter was fairly typical growing up-kind, funny, creative, full of hugs, loving...we moved to another state when she was going in to 4th grade and she began to change a bit-distracted, anxious, dealt with some bullying but still her happy-go-lucky self for the most part...we moved to another state when she was entering 6th grade. She made a couple of good friends but then those friendships ended, & one ended badly. She became very shy and anxious, but was still somewhat ok and then her Grandmother (my Mom) died from Alzheimer's and she was kind of close to her when she was little and then we moved again. That was probably the last straw for her mentally because she had to start HS and didn't know a soul. She tried though, bless her heart, but HS made her even more anxious and depressed to the point where she was hiding in the bathroom during lunch because she didn't have anyone to sit with. She tried joining a club at the urging of the school psychologist but it didn't help her make any friends. She finally met another "new' girl when she was halfway thru her Junior Year. This girl had severe mental illness and discussed suicide and harming herself openly with my daughter. My daughter did not know how to handle it and neither did I. COVID hit hard and not soon after they stopped being friends She told us over the Summer that she wanted to drop out of HS so we let her because we were scared she would end her life if she had to go back. She has been medically diagnosed with ADHD, depression and anxiety. She has been to three different therapists but none have helped her and she refuses to go back. Medication was tried (Zoloft) but it turned her into a zombie so I stopped it. She got a job briefly but quit. She is terrified of getting Covid although she's vaccinated. Sobshe stays in her room 90% of the day and is on her phone or sleeping. She will be 18 in January. My heart is broken for her, my health is not good either and I have full blown insomnia because of my worry for her. My husband said to just leave her be, she's been thru a lot but she has NO LIFE right now. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? What helped your child? Thank you for listening.