I might be asking for a lot here, but hoping maybe there’s someone out there who feels the same! Some vulnerable background on me: I was in a LTR that was a dead bedroom and while I missed the sexual aspect of our relationship, I realized what I missed the most was intimacy. Being intertwined with someone, sharing our secrets and feeling absolutely comfortable with them and with myself. I’ve been lucky enough to have had a fwb since that relationship which allowed me to find that intimacy again. It was very special to me because we were friends above all else and could have full conversations about life and our present without it always being about sex. Unfortunately, like all things, nothing lasts forever. We went our separate ways and I miss having someone to talk to about how I’m really feeling and sharing the passionate and sexual side of myself in a safe space.

I’d really like to find another friend who chooses me, my company and values our time together. I’m super busy during the week and work a job that absolutely zaps my social battery so I’m not a massive texter during the week. I enjoy people who are low key, good listeners and conversationalists that don’t mind taking the time to get to know me before moving on to a sexual aspect. I can be flirtatious, but move slow in terms of opening up sexually. For reference, it took about 6 weeks of chatting before I even met my last fwb in person. But when we did, it was fun and electric from the start! We didn’t see each other very often in person, maybe once a month or every 6 weeks but we made our time together count with long adventures. Concerts, bar hopping, going out to dinner and then long leisurely nights where play and conversation seamlessly intertwined. Basically, I’m only available weekends and I’m looking for someone who doesn’t get insecure if I don’t text them everyday but is happy to spend a day together in person catching up instead.

Right now I’m really trying to focus on myself, working on my fitness goals and growing as a person. I’d like to find someone who can match my pace, interests and isn’t completely jaded. Sarcasm and cynicism are welcome, though! It’s important to be able to laugh at ourselves. I also have a dark sense of humor so I enjoy that in others.

I’m 5’5, alternative hair, kinda fit/kinda fat and working on improving my physique. I’m always more motivated in the gym when I’m seeing someone so I have to admit that’s also a big reason for me seeking someone. I want to look good for you and feel that you’re enjoying my body. I have a fairly extroverted personality and I’m very blunt. I enjoy yoga, cooking and trying new food, writing short stories, reading, I’m a big movie and show buff, currently rewatching GoT and finding I’m enjoying Arya’s story arc way more this time around! I also listen to tons of music, from easy listening like Sade to EDM bangers, I’d say I’m well-rounded except I don’t listen to much metal, although I’m coming around to some country. Sexually, I’m “GGG” - Good at many things, Giving so you’d be very lucky and Game since I’m very open minded! I enjoy everything from mild to wild and have quite a few stories I can share. I’ve been to kink events, swingers parties and even a bdsm workshop earlier this year. As long as it’s safe, sane, consensual, I’m open to discussing it.

I would like to connect with someone who lives in Orange County or within reasonable commuting distance who is looking for someone to add some joy and intimacy to their life. I’m not really interested in people who are currently attached or cheating. I’m a low maintenance friend but that doesn’t mean I don’t want to be feel appreciated and prioritized. If you’re a busy, independent person who finds themselves lonely a bit too many times, we could be the right fit. Ideally you can host but occasionally I can as well when my housemate is out of town.

I know attraction is important so I can share pics after initial intros as long as you’re 25 and are able to string a thoughtful message together. I’m attracted to different types of people but kind, witty and curious are traits I particularly enjoy. The first physical trait I notice in a man are his hands so if you want to include a pic of yours that would tell me you really want to get my attention. Let me know about your interests or hobbies, age, location and what intimacy means to you.