Then we're likely a perfect fit.

If you had to describe my appearance and personality, "cute" would be the only word you'd need. Despite being close to 30 years old, I look closer to 24. It's something I've never really had a problem with because I live a pretty awesome life doing what I love. Recently though, I've come to realize that there is a general preference for more macho, hyper-masculine men in the online dating world. Combined with my general preference for older, nurturing partners, I've had little success finding someone compatible in the realm of traditional dating apps and events. So with this post, I'm hoping to lean into my appearance and see if I can develop an ongoing connection with a woman who is attracted to cute, younger men like myself.

If you've read this far, I'm taking it as a sign you're interested, so I'd like to tell you more about myself. I'm:

• 29 (But again, still look closer to 24/25)

• 5'9"

• Lean body

• 100% single

• Employed, own my car, can pay my own bills, etc.

• Love language: Food, followed by touch/acts of service/quality time (they're all good really haha)

• How I spend a free day: A hike, a museum, or a movie at a vintage theater. And good food of course

• What makes me happy: Helping people, improving their lives, knowing I made someone's day a little better

• Left/liberal

• Vaccinated

• Don't smoke/do drugs, drinking is mostly limited to small amounts at social occasions

As for the kind of connection I've come to reddit to find, the simplest way to put it would be that I'm looking for a genuine connection with an older, nurturing woman. To be clear, I'm not looking for a quick hookup, rather, I'm looking for a sincere, ongoing connection that includes dates and doing normal fun things together in addition to regular physical intimacy. With summer having already started, there's lots of things I want to do in SoCal, and while there's no reason why I can't do them alone, I think you'll agree adventures are always a lot more fun going with someone and sharing the experience with them. I'd love for us to take turns making plans of things to do on the weekends together, just making the most of the great weather and our free time together.

In between those weekend adventures, I'd want us to spend more laid-back time together. Let's grab dessert together after work? Or maybe bake cookies together during the week? Fun, low key stuff where we can easily spend time together and relax is stuff I really enjoy!

As for why I'm looking for an older, nurturing woman for this relationship, there are a few reasons:

• I am deeply attracted to nurturing caregiver types. I'm not going to go into my whole life story here, but in short, it has a lot to do with how I grew up (which is probably the reason behind most people's attractions) From a very young age, I was expected to perform at a very high level without much in the way of support. In some ways, those expectations are the reasons why I am a successful adult today, which is great! But on the other hand, feeling like you always need to perform at an intensely high level or else have everything taken away from you can be the source of a lot of stress in life. In some ways, this dynamic fills a need for a level of emotional and physical support I didn't receive in life to date. Feeling like you're held in someone's caring hands, knowing they have you, that they want you, for who you are and not what you can do for them? That's the best feeling in the world, and the core reason I'm seeking someone with a strong nurturing, caregiving streak.

• There's the usual appeal of the confidence and directness of such an older, experienced partner, but there is something deeply comforting to me about being in the presence of a woman who has lived life. I like being with someone who has been through things, who has wisdom that comes from her life experience. There's perhaps a sense of security with being with a partner who has lived more life than me. Being able to learn from her, to feel protected and somewhat guided by her, is truly appealing to me.

As for the kind of woman I am attracted to, I'm looking for someone:

• Age 30-50

• Tall

• Plus-Size

• Mombod

• Nurturing

• Wants to make time in their life for a regular, younger companion

I know this post is a lot, so I'll wrap it up by summarizing: If you're a woman in the SoCal area who wants a real, genuine FWB relationship with a younger man, and wouldn't mind taking him under your wing and nurturing him this summer, reach out. Let me take you out for coffee or dinner so we can really get to know each other and start a fun summer of adventures together.