I’m a 50-something WM (look younger, but still old)… and I have a problem. I have a best friend of 23 years (a girl) who gives me the (platonic) companionship I need. I’m a workaholic. I don’t want kids or marriage. Hell, I don’t even want to date. I’m also an INTJ who values his alone time (to recharge).
“Wow… what a catch.”
I know, right? Oh, that was sarcasm.
So if I don’t want a relationship, what do I want? Well… it’s complicated (especially since I’m not looking for sex, either; at my age, let’s just say the car doesn’t run like it used to... but, oh… it certainly wants to explore some VERY exotic destinations).
No… what I crave most is intimacy. Cuddling. Kissing. I even wrote about it (warning: shitty poem… incoming).
"I crave intimacy more so than sex

Lying in bed with you, cuddling
My leg draped over yours
Breathing you in
The softness of your skin
The smell of your hair
The fullness of your lips
Studying the curves of your warm body
Kissing you, gently. A hint of tongue.
Where time stops and nothing else matters but being there with you in that moment
Tasting you. Every... delicious... inch."
I guess I’m hoping to find someone who wants the same thing. I don’t care about age, race, body type… or even if you’re married (and maybe perfectly happy except that you’re in the same boat… craving some semblance of intimacy). I think women are beautiful and sexy in all shapes and sizes. I honestly don’t care about your stats. I do care, however, about your mind. I don’t just want to cuddle. I’m, ideally, hoping to find someone who wants to chat now and then. Not an all-consuming thing, but a little texting here and there. Some fun banter (hopefully).
If the chemistry is there and we’re both feeling it, I'm obviously not going to rule out sex (I definitely have my kinks and I'm not an idiot)… but it’s a cuddle partner, first and foremost, that I’m seeking. I’d love to meet as often as our schedules would allow. Could be once a month. Once every other month. An hour or two… or all day. Just depends on you and how we see this unfolding. No pressure here. No expectations. Should you need to cancel last minute, fine by me. I’m a pretty laidback individual.
Whether you’re single or not, don’t worry. I have no interest in friending you on Facebook (or whatever social app you're on) or bombarding you with incessant text messages. You can even give me a fake name (Cleopatra, perhaps?) and I’m happy to use whatever chat app you want. Ok, wait… maybe not Cleopatra… because then I’m going to feel obligated to role play as Mark Antony. I’ll probably end up wearing a toga and then it’s just going to get weird. Go with… Taylor Swift or… Beyoncé. Own it.
On a serious note… sorry for the novel (but thanks for reading this far). If you’re interested, I’d love to hear from you. If not, no worries. Enjoy the summer.