Hi lovelies. Posting this because I’ve seen a lot of posts here about dealing with burnout, demotivation, anxiety, self image etc. and I have so many experiences with these things that perhaps sharing would be useful to a few ppl. This is a long post so sorry in advance 💖🦭

As a past top creator who’s now taking a break and plateaued (I’m in the process of taking a long hiatus and potentially making the decision to quit, not sure yet) this is my advice:

🌟 Therapy is a game changer. Look up Pineapple Support (pineapplesupport.org)🍍 it’s a fantastic resource for affordable care for sex workers. I found my therapist through there.

🌟 Taking breaks — how often do you take a true break where you’re fully logged out? I used to think I took breaks all the time but my toxic overworking ass found sneaky ways to work while “resting”. Our capitalist society looks down on resting, which is heinous because our minds bodies need it to function. Burnout is the worst and the remedy is taking time off. Enjoy your irl real life

🌟 If you’re uninspired, a break could also recharge and replenish your creative juices. Sometimes the best ideas come to me while I’m doing something mundane. Also, on a content creating level, turning a “normal” moment into a horny experience is something subscribers enjoy. The true ride or die will be there even after a break. It’s normal for ppl to go after a month and everyone eventually gets over you; it’s nothing personal it’s literally just male attention span

🌟 Stop comparing urself to others. Easier said than done cuz we live in a culture that perpetuates comparison, but moments of true introspection are really important. No one but you lives ur life. Success and failure are cyclical, plateauing is normal, and the notion that we need to outdo ourselves is toxic as hell. Goals are great, to a fault. Every day we’re inundated and brainwashed with unrealistic standards of beauty, success, aspirational shit etc. Why can’t we be happy with where we are/who we are?

🌟 imo percentages on OF are a ridiculous concept. We obsess over a made up number that changes constantly. As long as ur making a good income to afford ur living / pay some bills / save a little, who cares what the per cent is? Everyone’s definition of success is different — some ppl need more or less depending on where they live, debts, responsibilities, families, etc.

🌟 This summer has been slow as fuck for many of us. The state of the world/US Economy sucks balls. Don’t take it personally if it’s slow. Don’t take anything from subs personally! I struggle with that one a lot, but sometimes ppl unsub just bc they can’t afford you, not cause you’re doing something wrong. We’re entertainment, not a life necessity. Not everyone can afford the luxury of interactive parasocial porn when there’s gas, bills, kids, groceries, and other shit rising in prices from this inflation. Yeah there’s def a few girls who thrive in even hard times… but during dips like this, future proof ur OF income by supplementing it with something else; another platform or line or work altogether. Unless you’re like top-top it’s risky to rely on OF to be ur full time

🌟 Self image: it’s cheesy af but we are all beautiful and have a market for each one of us. It’s hard to compare to “perfect” genetic lottery winning girls who also happen to be marketing geniuses, but we all have our niche. This is why we even have the potential to have subscribers— someone out there is attracted to something about YOU. Keep radiating ur essence and you will have loyal subs. Everything online already feels like an advertisement so give ur subs a sense of ur reality, as much as you are comfortable with

🌟 Don’t take shit from dudes who push your boundaries! Your page is your page and you work at your own pace and comfort level. Yes, be professional and give them excellent service, but also remember to take care of your health — real life comes first

🌟 Have a reason to get into this profession besides money. I know OF is often peddled as a get rich quick scheme but as we all know that is very far from true. Obviously we are here for income. But having expectations/having ur eye strictly on the $ may be disappointing. Expectations in general are a gateway to disappointment in so many fields of life. What are your secondary/tertiary reasons for starting and OF? I see it as a creative outlet, a work of art, and a place where my body confidence has been boosted. I used to have an ED for over a decade and could never even look at myself naked, much imagine this could be my job. It may sound counterintuitive cause we’re picked apart by our looks, but I love the compliments my nudes get. I had never gotten any irl before. I hated letting people see me naked or touch me that weren’t clients. Now I have a bf and I am happier with my body; if my OF career ended tomorrow I will be forever thankful for generating that kind of self love. I still feel depressed often but looking back, a few years progress is a big deal

🌟 Again — don’t expect super fast growth overnight!! It can happen, you can do all the tricks and the right marketing and be on ur phone 14rs a day 7 days a week, but be careful of burnout and be kind to yourself

🌟 Be kind to ur fellow SWers. This is a competitive industry and making friends can be hard. This can also be a very private, isolating field. Having someone to talk to is essential, whether it be a therapist or a friend or a fellow OF creator. I’m open to talk and help as much as I can cause I hate seeing people going through this kind of shit and struggling with burnout and self esteem issues. We are some of the best, hottest, smartest, most creative and wonderful people! Like minded ladies say hi! I wish there was more potential for a online SW/OF union. Can we start one lol??

I hope this helps someone because I wish I had something like this when I first started: someone who didn’t gatekeep or sugarcoat, to tell me to shut the fuck up, enjoy creating my work (we are privileged to do this online safely in our homes), stop stressing about bullshit, and have fun in life. OF can be so exciting and amazing and creative so if it gets to be mechanical and job-like, that’s when I know to take breaks and recharge. We’re not machines. I know it can be hard to take breaks cause we’re so conditioned to work our asses off, but rearranging ur reward cycle away from the cyber realms can be healthy. OF is not allll of ur life.

I started a small personal project last year called Cyberhorny that unpacks the psychological elements of online sex work you can read the PDF here ! I don’t think there’s a “one size fits all” with advice. Let’s be real there’s a lot of mental health issues we contend with in this line of work.

Anyway!! Sorry about the long rant, have a beautiful week! If this helps you, great! If not, I hope you find something that does💗 Much love 🦋

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