Hello beautiful friends.

Let me start by saying I'm relatively new to sex work/content creation (just started last summer) Overall, it's been a good experience.

But I've noticed a trend and I want to see if anyone out there has noticed the same thing.

Namely, that whenever someone tries to get free content, engage in a back and forth without paying, or wants to take things "offline" it's very often someone who identifies as a Dom. As someone who identifies as submissive (IRL and online) I've had a decent number of encounters with these so-called Doms. And I am about sick of it.

While I'm new to sex work I am not new to kink. My husband and I have been together for almost 15 years, and have always engaged in both a BDSM and D/S dynamic. So the idea that someone should take something from me without providing something in return, goes against the dynamic completely. A true Dom understands that the Sub's pleasure and enjoyment of the dynamic is paramount. The sub should be happy, comfortable and not feel coerced in anyway. There should be clear boundaries and limits, and all of those things should be discussed in advance. In sex work, to me, this means being paid a fair price, up front, without introducing the dynamic as a means to get me to give shit for free. Examples of this:

"Mmm, you should be a good girl for me and show me that pussy for free."

"Since we're both enjoying this you should have the other guys pay you and you can be my little slut for free."

(In response to an ad offering a cam session for $70) "I know I placed an ad, but actually I am looking for an in-person play partner and not paid content."

These are three separate examples from three separate men. But this has happened more than three times. I probably encounter this, or something similar to it once a week. AT LEAST.

At this point I know the block button is the best tool I have in these scenarios, and I'm not afraid to use it! But I wanted to post this to open up the discussion about...IDK...where men get the fucking audacity?

And also: to issue a warning to anyone else who is new to this work. Don't get sucked into this bullshit. These men are not fucking sexy, they aren't "Doms" and this isn't a real D/S dynamic. They're manipulative assholes who feel entitled to free shit. Don't give in.