I’ve been thinking about this a lot since the past few days and I think I should share it with y’all, this is a safe space for me to share their views after all. I might get some negative reactions but I’m all up for that.

Okay, done with the disclaimer. This ongoing gender war has affected most guys here. Reading posts from the past few days, most of us don’t like the generalization about all men, for obvious reasons. A few of us have also tried to reason the other way round, if getting seen as a potential criminal is bad, imagining yourself as a potential victim of assaults is a lot worse thing, which again isn’t untrue.

The thing we’d all agree on, hopefully, is that the generalization isn’t good and yet folks here have done so repeatedly, against and especially against the twox counterpart of this sub. Before someone calls me a knight, I do want to clarify that I myself hate the generalization against men, it’s equally disrespectful.

Easy access to social media, and the mentality of us Indians to feel pride and shame in our fellow men/women has probably made this generalization an easy escape for those who don’t want to reason. I mean won’t we all feel pride if some Indian dude wins a nobel tomorrow, and probably get motivated by it? Similar is with the feeling of shame and guilt. It’s important to know that you didn’t do anything, but this doesn’t come easy in the current narrative and there are countless posts here who’ve voiced about not wanting to feel guilty about the recent incidents. I’d say it’s a good first step towards feeling like an independent individual and breaking the crowd mentality.

The thing about this sub, especially recently, has been to generalize against women, the twox sub, and all that. What I’ve started to fear is that this too is becoming an echo chamber like that one, women are this, women are that, as if y’all don’t have mothers, sisters or other close female relatives.

Gender based laws are not fair, yes. Gender based dating scene is not fair, yes. Gender norms in society are not fair, hell yeah. Only women who don’t know how guys deal with life, will go on about saying that men have it easy in life. Gender based politics is fairly new to India, it’s not even a part of the mainstream society yet and won’t be for a few years. Feminism again is only limited to a few corners and not a part of the mainstream culture. Some women would obviously get over enthusiastic and get aggressive. They’d get attention for being the heroes leading the battle. Let them be. Most women, like us, don’t want to bicker and fight for unfairness, and these wannabes will die out. Just reason with women around you, online but especially irl. Helps a lot, opening their horizons, and not get led by these wannabes, and yours too.

I won’t make this already long ass post even longer, but if you do agree on parts, you’d agree that this sub needs to open up and not make into a toxic chamber. If you don’t agree, you can downvote me to hell for all I care, but better put forward your points. Maybe I’ll get to learn something.