7 years ago I got falsely accused; it ruined any self confidence I had and I just feel emotionally broken.

I struggle to even explain how I feel, sex seems to be the only thing everyone cares about, I can't even watch tv or movies without nearly every single one having a sex/makeout scene to remind me how broken and lonely I am. Even when I do find a little bit of confidence to try flirting it never seems to go well, it feels like girls can tell that deep down I'm nervous and that is just a massive red flag. The few times I've actually gotten close to hooking up with someone they've always gotten offended that I'd ask them to give consent in a way that could actually be proven later. So much for "consent is sexy".

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The fact that really the only acceptable place to flirt with women is at bars just drives me crazy. I know logically I'm just traumatized and over fearful but it just feels like women use alcohol as "plausible accusability" if a guy is bad or inexperienced at sex then she can accuse him. I'm so fucking scared because I know I'm inexperienced but I just don't know how to get more experience in the first place.

Yes I've tried dating apps, I don't think I'm ugly but I'm not like 95th percentile attractive so it just makes me feel even more like shit. "Here's 100's of women around you in bikini pics who want to hookup with anyone other than you!" and "Look someone liked you, but we won't show you them unless you pay us $40 a month just so they can ghost you too" no thanks.

I just don't know what to do, I doubt any woman will ever like me if I can't stop treating every girl as a risk. I do want to trust someone again but its just so hard to get past this trauma when I'm aware of how badly everything can go. If anyone has experience or advice for overcoming trauma like this I'd appreciate any help I can get, I'm losing hope that I'll ever be able to fix myself.