So this guy (m21) I met off bumble and I (f20) have were talking in early January. This would be the only other guys I started seriously talking too after my bf of almost 4 years broke up with me last June. And he was in a similar situation with an ex of about 3 years. Anyways we both kinda talked about not wanting to be in a committed relationship and I was fine with that. We’d hang out, smoke together and usually end the night making out but never went any further than that. I got to a point where I really liked him and told him and he’d tell me the same thing. He’d also always tell me how he talked about me to his mom and all this stuff which got me thinking he actually really likes me.

Well the last time we hung out he wanted to talk and said something along the lines of how he wants to be independent and single right now but also still fucks with me and is down to still hang and do fun shit together with me. He also insisted many times he wouldn’t be ghosting me. I left that night sorta confused but didn’t really say anything and waiting for a text from him. He never ended up hitting me up so I texted him just a simply hey how’s it going and he responded a few days later being like hi I’m good how r u. Then I asked him to hang and boom ghosted. That happened early April and I’m just wondering what happened. I totally understand him wanting to be single and I felt like I wasn’t being pushy about a relationship I was just like I like you and think ur hot and u treat me extremely well.

I just feel annoyed now that he actually ghosted me after explicitly saying he wouldn’t. I want to hit him up again and text him but idk if that would even be beneficial for me. What do y’all think? Should I text him and what would I even say?

I also feel like this man was the only person who I am totally physically attracted too and I did really fall for him. We’re both nannys and both into all the same stuff and he wants to be a teacher just like me. It felt too good to be true and I’m sad it ended up being like that. Any advice about what to do? Do I move on or hit him up? Ugh my mind is so conflicted.