After making dinner last night and putting everything away, I told my partner last night “you’re on dishes tonight.” In a playful manner. She looked up from her phone and said “I don’t want to do them right now.” It’s probably been a solid week to a week and a half since she had done the dishes so I just went and did them like I always do. She felt guilty and tried to come into do them but I was already upset that the very rare occasion that I ask for anything it has to be met with “I don’t want to right now.” She said she was going to do them in the morning, even though I know she wouldn’t because she always sleeps in until we need to leave for work. She then told me that the reason she never wants to do any of the chores in the house is because I spoil her and I do them all the time anyways. That really felt like a slap in the face to me. I do most of the chores most of the time without being asked or asking her to do them because I’m trying to be a good husband and keep the house cleaned when it gets dirty. I just feel really down now. If I do too much she’s now entitled to not having to do anything if I do too little then I’m not contributing. I just don’t understand.