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My girlfriend is probably moving to Texas. Not a big deal. We've been long distance for most of our relationship, and it's been rough but I'm trying my hardest to make it work. I'm a full time student and I work a full time job to make ends meet. I call her everyday and text as much as I can, but I can't visit as much because of gas prices and my car being shirty. So far it's been working.
Her mother is a big problem though. She emotionally abusive to my gf. It's to the point where nearly everyday I get a call from my gf t.v. and she's crying and saying she wants to kill herself. It's to the point where I'm depressed all the time. If I try and break up with her, she'll kill herself and I don't need that on my conscience.
A few days ago my gf called and said her mom was sending her dog to Texas, with or without her. Her mom has been trying to get her to move to Texas for awhile, because God forbid anyone have desires or a will that don't align with what she wants. After thinking about it I told her that I think it would be a good idea if she goes to Texas for better opportunities and to get away from her mother. I can take the Amtrak to see her which is cheaper than paying for gas to drive to Texas from Missouri (where we both live atm). She's says she wants me to move down with her, and her mother says that if I care I'll just drop everythi byg and move.
I have a plan for my life. I need this plan to stay focused and not fall back into bad habits. If I move down there I will have no one but my gf. I'll probably have to get a job in customer service. I'll have to have consistant consistent and prolonged contact with her mother. If I say no, we probably won't be together much longer. I can't help be feeling manipulated, because she wants me to "think about it" and talk to her about how I feel, but when I do she doesn't really listen and goes straight to planning our new fucking lives in Texas. Whenever I think about the future now, I find it very hard to imagine anything other than me ending up eating a bullet. I don't feel like I can talk to her about my emotional or mental health period because she has so much baggage that it will just detract from her already weak emotional state. If I just put up with it and deal, I'll probably end up resenting her. Is what to do
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