Hey Reddit,

I’m a 30-year-old guy navigating the ups and downs of dating as someone who uses a wheelchair for longer distances due to cerebral palsy. It’s been challenging to meet women and build connections, and I feel like my disability often overshadows who I am as a person. So, I’m here to ask:

Have you ever dated someone with a disability, like a wheelchair user? If so, what was the experience like? If not, would you consider it?

I’ll be honest—dating as a wheelchair user can be tough. On dating apps, it feels like people only see the chair, not the person behind it. I wonder if there’s an assumption that being in a wheelchair means I can’t be intimate or lead a fulfilling, adventurous life. For the record, I absolutely can—in every sense of the word.

Ladies of Reddit, I’d love to hear your thoughts. Would you date someone who uses a wheelchair? If you have hesitations, what are they? And if you’ve been in a relationship with someone with a disability, what helped you navigate the unique dynamics?

For me, using a wheelchair doesn’t define my life—it’s just a tool that helps me get around. I’m independent, driven, and love having deep conversations, sharing laughs, and going on adventures. But I admit, I’ve hesitated to bring up my disability early in relationships. I worry it might discourage people before they even take the chance to get to know me.

I’m reaching out to better understand how others view relationships with someone like me. Have you or someone you know dated someone with a disability? How did you handle conversations about accessibility, intimacy, and other challenges?

I appreciate any insights, advice, or personal stories you’re willing to share. At the end of the day, I’m just a guy looking for connection, like anyone else. Thanks for reading, and I look forward to hearing your perspectives!