My dating life has been fairly slow and irregular my whole life. I know this sounds arrogant but I don’t know why. I go out and travel a lot, I have a big friend group, are pretty popular with both guys and girls and get compliments on my knowledge, humor, style and looks. Maybe I’m also just delusional but this observation is not solely based on my personal perception.

However when it comes to dating it’s been pretty irregular. I’ve had a few short term things and I go on a date with a girl here and there because I’m lonely but (again please don’t take it as me being arrogant but honestly sharing my thoughts) they were not on the level of the girls my friends are dating. I’m not looking for anything specific but I’ve never had a longer relationship, even tho I did have the opportunity before once or twice.

Whenever I hear stories about dating, see reels, shows or whatever I feel like I’m missing out and doing something wrong ever since high school. I meet girls but it almost always stays platonic and the girls from dating apps that want to go on a date are mostly not the ones I’m attracted to. At this point I feel like I’m not worthy of love and I’m doing something wrong.

I feel like every time I do get a chance, the dates go well and even if it leads to nothing both me and her are having a good time. I don’t know wether it is because I’m not straight forward enough in pursing the girls I’m interested in, if I suck at engaging, flirting and texting or if maybe I do have standards that are too high for the man I actually am. I’m fairly convinced, I’m definitely not the best at communicating my interest if I’m already in contact with the girl, as i tend to overthink and do not want to be disrespectful or make her uncomfortable. I know some of this may come off as arrogant or douchey but I am convinced that physical attraction is part of a healthy (long term) relationship. Rarely being able to experience that on dates and never in a relationship makes me sad, and leads to me overthinking what’s wrong with me and that I’ll never have it/don’t deserve it.

If anyone is/was in a similar situation or has any tips please feel free to let me know. I’m also happy to answer any questions you might have :).

Tldr: I date really irregularly and rarely girls I’m actually attracted to, so I’m constantly wondering why I don’t have or deserve a dating life like everyone else in my life.