Recently got pierced and tatted and my sister noticed my nose piercing and she made it feel safe and told her i got my tummy pierced. And then immediately changed her tone and said, im telling mom. And im gonna make sure she starts charging you rent since you feel grown enough to make your own decisions. That i shouldve asked my mom at 22 about whether i can get a piercing or not. It just hurts bc i feel ive never truly felt i had my siblings on my side or that opportunity to trust them with anything bc as soon as i do…yeah “well we’ll see what mom does when i tell her” like they always advocate against me. I also always get told someone else has a choice in my body and what I do…I have grown sheltered all my life bc i havent been allowed to go out bc “mom said so” I havent been able to connect with friend a lot during early school or hs bc i could only go to school and had to stay locked up at home. Any deviation, i always get interrogated and told im being a bad person for going out. Ive been trying to state my ownership over my life and body but it just constantly being pushed in a corner by my whole family about why im a shit person for doing so. Even rn, i need a surgery for my gall stones and my mom is not for it and she keeps making me feel like shit for choosing to do it. I hate feeling unsafe in my own house but not having the income to leave. I hate feeling like my family is my own worst enemy.