31F. He’s trying to get out from under a loan which I totally understand, and swears it’s only for 6 months. We both work full time from home but don’t usually talk during the day, which is fine by me as I’m not the type of girl who needs to talk all day everyday, and we usually catch up on a phone call at night.

I gave up on texting him throughout the day because he BARELY responds, saying he didn’t see my text, etc. I should also point out we have an age gap and he has a college age son, so maybe that’s why he’s not used to texting all the time?

Anyways, with this new night shift job he works all day from 8 AM - 5 PM and then nights from 10 PM - 6 AM, with Wednesday and Sunday nights off. So now our nightly phone calls have become twice a week phone calls for maybe an hour with almost no texting in between.

This has been bothering me, and I feel terrible as I should be understanding about him trying to pay off his loan, and I am. But I’m also conflicted because I’m feeling neglected. Talking to him about it never gets me anywhere, and I’ve even tried to up the texting during the day to supplement our fewer phone calls, but again he barely responds.

Idk. I feel guilty for feeling like a whiny baby, but I also get tired of always understanding. I understand when he doesn’t text back. I understood when he took this job. I understand when we only see each other twice a month or when he can’t confirm plans with me ahead of time because he “doesn’t want to commit to something he can’t follow through on”, which makes sense but then leaves me feeling like ok….? Then the day of if he ends up being free he may reach out but by then I’m pissed and annoyed and am already out doing stuff.

Sorry, I feel like I’m rambling. Am I making any sense?