I (22F) am in my last semester of undergrad and it occurred to me that I have never really had a serious relationship since my freshman year and that only lasted two months because he just lost interest one day. Over my years in college, I've had different roommates and every single roommate I have had has also had a boyfriend, and it just makes me feel so undesirable. I understand everyone's life is at a different pace than mine but it would be nice to have a partner I can be with and talk to about my day. Part of me thinks it is because of my weight because I Am a little bigger but it has never really stopped me from pursuing a guy because I do think I am pretty and I have a lot of great personality traits. however, it seems like the guys I talk to just want something physical and I do not. Seeing half my graduating high school class getting engaged, married, and starting a family is making me think I will be alone forever. I know that sounds so dramatic but every time I turn around someone at work is in a relationship that is either my age or younger, someone I'm in a group project with is discussing their engagement photos, etc. Like am I missing something? Not being asked out on dates and not having someone to watch movies with on Friday nights makes me sad. I have tried dating apps and I have tried going out to bars and doing different activities that require me to put myself out there, but my friends usually get hit on more than me. I do have a therapist and we are working on my doubts but I can't help but think about how it just may not be for me and it makes me sad. I've always dreamed of getting married and falling in love but with how society is I feel like there are not many good guys left and I do not want to settle for someone who gives me the bare minimum but at this point, it seems like that's all I'm good enough for.

I'm not looking for pity responses but I am hoping others have felt like this and can give me any advice or insight on how you have overcome this mindset or if you're still going through this and what things are helping you be more positive.

TL;DR: all of my roommates have had serious boyfriends but I have not. So I’m convinced I won’t ever get married or fall in-love even though I put myself out there.

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