We live in a big apartment with many people, as is the style when cost of living is high. I like living with other people, I really do! But our roommates are just taking advantage of us at this point.

They never clean up after themselves. Ever. When one of us, me usually, as the designated bad guy, tells them they need to start helping out, they say "that's fair" and make a small effort for like a week. And then stop.

• Recycling and trash. If we're lucky they'll sometimes bring the bin back in after we fill it from the apartment stash and take it out.

• Cleaning shared spaces. They don't use the common areas anymore, which fine whatever, but they NEVER clean the kitchen or the bathrooms. My GF and I have independently gone on "cleaning strike", as we use separate bathrooms in the apt currently, and I know this is petty, but it just becomes a disaster almost immediately. They either refuse to step up, or don't mind living in a complete mess. Dishes sit in the sink forever or until they need to use it again.

• "I don't clean up after other people". Someone, it could've been me, used my baking sheet and didn't clean it off immediately. One of my roommates started using it for their frozen pizzas, covered it with tinfoil, and repeatedly used it like that without cleaning the original food off. The food left from the first time was burning into it. I asked why the hell they were doing it as they were ruining my baking sheet and they said they wouldn't clean up someone else's mess. Then why are you using it??? And what the hell are we doing constantly cleaning up after everyone else???

• One of them literally had a bowl of ramen, left the pot on the stovetop unwashed, and then left their bowl ON TOP OF THE DIRTY DISHWASHER. Didn't even bother to put it in the dishwasher??? My GF and I are somehow completely responsible for running the dishwasher. We left their bowl on top of the dishwasher in protest for a week once and they never moved it. We finally threw it in the dishwasher.

• I have to remind people constantly about our utilities/rent etc. One time I posted a screenshot of our electric bill in the group chat without dividing it into individual amounts, and one of my roommates waited until I got angry and said they'll have to pay my overdraft fees before saying "oh I kept meaning to ask you what my individual amount was". Is it really that hard to put the number in your phone's calculator and hit divide??? People are like "oh yeah what's our rent again". Idk see the pinned message in the group chat. Or pay attention. Literally anything.

• We cover basically any shared expenses. I bought a new router and modem because my old one sucked. I asked people to help chip in to cover the costs because it was something everyone would benefit from. Nope. No one except us pre emptively buys anything. If we let the trash bags or whatever run out, they'll buy a single box. Meanwhile we are constantly checking on paper towel/tp/dish soap levels and picking up a mega pack from the wholesale store.

• Another petty thing I did to see what would happen was let the toilet paper run out in the bathroom. My roommate always lets it run out and doesn't grab extra from the shared stash, ever. I always do. So I purposely didn't grab extra once. They called my GF to bring them a roll because they didn't even check!

They're just so selfish and take us for granted. I'm so tired.

One of my roommates is legitimately disabled, but since they've been acting like this I get suspicious they're playing up their disability to avoid doing literally anything. They weren't like this when they moved in. I hate thinking of other people that way, I always want to assume the best. I have ADHD and treatment resistant depression and yet, I still manage to take care of my messes. Meanwhile they just use it as an excuse for everything. My GF would sometimes offer to help them clean up their room because it gets awful in there. She hasn't in a while, because we're so fed up, and I can hear them tripping over trash bags of empty cans/bottles constantly. They're unemployed right now too and are constantly playing video games instead of, idk, catching up on all the stuff they let us take care of for them. One time they managed to get their pile of dishes out of their room, and....put it in the sink. For days.

We're leaving in a few months, and getting our own place. But I'm just so frustrated it came to this. I wish I could have a camera in that apartment 6 months down the road to see how absolutely disgusting it gets without the two of us cleaning up after everyone.