So my best friend left last Saturday for a vacation and didn't even tell the friend group. Now, I know that she is a grown woman and that she is entitled to her own money and she's independent, but I just wish she would have told us--we only found out because she posted on her FB story that said "Bye [city name] see you later".

I am a little upset because I wish she could have told us (for safety reasons), and because the city that she's going to is where her ex-husband lives. He was toxic to her (never contributed to the house, always accused her of cheating when she wasn't, got jealous when she wanted to hang out with us, got jealous when she wanted to hang out with us and our guy friends are there, complained that she was nagging when all she was asking was help with the chores, punched a hole in the wall when they argued). She stopped contact with him but then she seems to be talking to him again and she told me that she felt butterflies in her tummy when he remembered her birthday and gave her a gift (bare minimum, if you ask me).

We also go to a French class together and when I asked her when she's coming back so I could tell the teacher, she didn't answer my question and tried to change the subject. After circling back to my question she answered that she will be back after 2 weeks. Now I'm all for her having a good time, but I feel like what she also did was a bit hasty and I don't think she thought this through. I'll always be her friend and support her, but I won't coddle her as well if she comes back and is heartbroken--she should be able to understand how her actions have consequences, and I'm there to support her, but at the same time I've also been asking if she has been seeing her therapist, and as usual, she evades the question or makes up an excuse.

That's all I have to say right now, all I can hope for is that she has a good time in her vacation.