It's sad reading your response, thinking that people don't fully communicate with their spouse or partner.

My wife and I communicate and trust each other completely and work on that continuously, which has led to not just a sexual freedom, but helps our relationship grow. We are best friends, we don't keep secrets from each other. If there is something like this VR/partner play topic that comes up, it's approached like,... she wants to see me happy, and fulfilled and vise versa. She or we are more than happy to help our partner explore and enjoy fantasies.

Communication is they key to a healthy relationship with all humans,.. not just our spouces.

No, info.., wife and I are swingers... ide say our sexual lifestyle is far different than most people's. And our dynamics and diversity allows us to explore with each other and other people separately and quickly get back to focus on each other. We prefer to play together but on the off chance either one of us plays with other people., when we get home we want to know the details.. or if we play with another MF couple.. after they leave we have sex, and discuss things... I/we are very very attracted to each other and lust each other etc etc.. we definitely have genuine arousal for each other. Just we're secure enough to also be ok with being aroused by other people. Sorry if TMI

Communication really is the key here. If you have a fantasy like this and maybe she's open enough to help you. Fulfill it, but at least communicate. Let her know what your idea is and find out whether her thoughts on it are to be. She's open to that idea too. Maybe she can put it on. Try it while you do things to her.

Short answer,. We're swingers. .. and it was her idea.

I would LOVE to find out she does or did. That's a huge turn on for me. He, being a naughty girl and telling me after. Or me somehow catching her. But sadly she doesn't pursue guys on her own and do that, typically it's me arranging the fun.