Hello!

Considering I'll be in NYC tomorrow....

I have to be honest, one of the things I miss most about living in a city is the lack of access to places where I can wear my nicest ensemble of clothing, have a fancy drink, and take in the atmosphere with someone lovely.

I'm just a Jersey boy from the shore who's going to be in NYC somewhat frequently for business and I'm looking for someone who's eloquent and fun to spend time with in and out the bedroom.

I like the romanticism of the slow simmer of imprompt tension and lust while the light of a candle flickers the ember in your eyes.

I am DDF, a non-smoker (I do smoke periodically when in Europe; but only when I'm offered), and I love a girl who's eloquent in speech as she is when she's being fucked.

Below is my normal post and a bit more about me;

To my potential partner,

I ask of you upon reading this sentence to gift me your eyes as I introduce myself to you.

There are two personal platitudes I hold sacred in and out the bedroom. The first is that my word, my promise to you, is my obligation. The second is that I conduct myself with compassion and empathy to treat my partners as equals in our relationship. I don't believe I could conduct myself properly in a relationship without adhering to both. When a person is stripped of everything, trust is the most important thing in the world.

You'll see the side of me that likes to edge someone into oblivion while taking every delight at teasing and breaking you down to your most primal desires.  However, once the scene ends, I prefer to be more sober and reflective, to bask in your post play glow and smile. I'm a fairly unassuming gentleman during the day and a gentleman who'd slap you with a smile at night. Speaking of allow me to elaborate on that.

I've been involved on and off in the BDSM world since I was 20, starting with munches in NJ and dungeon clubs in NYC. The first person I ever met in the scene was a sadist with decades of experience who gave me a hands-on introudction to impact play. On my order of what I'm knowledgable on the most I'd say it goes like this; Impact Play, sensory deprivation, orgasm denial, wax play, and rope. Typically, I've stuck with things that I can actively do in the bedroom and things that correlate to my personality. I work best when I can really connect with someone but am not shy of exhibitionism.

I enjoy the chase of knowing I caught you and that extends to my absolute enjoyment of using my hands in the bedroom. The high of knowing my touch just sets you off on an experience of a lifetime in the span of an afternoon to the low of aftercare ruminating on the immense amount of trust you've granted me. I'm naturally soft spoken and gentle but I have a large range of "personas" when it comes to kink. I lowkey enjoy degrading and humiliating my partners going far as rubbing wet panties on a partner's soaking clit and stuffing it in their mouth. I've also dabbled in being a bull for a couple where I sent insulting texts and photos to their partner. My toolkit is lightweight at the moment with only a paddle, basic restraints, shoe laces, clothespins, a blindfold, and two sets of jute and red silk rope as I currently search for a new set of quality impact implements.

Segwaying to my more vanilla interests I'm an avid traveler who has lived in London and the US. I recently got back from an 14 day trip to Mexico to the state of Michoacan to see the Monarch Reserve with plans on going skiing in Spain to celebrate Las Fallas in March. In the past, I've been on a mission trip to Guatemala and have had several road trips, lengthiest being a Southern trip to the Grand Canyon and back. I've grown my cookbook from all the places I've been so have an open mind as well as appetite.  

On a personal note, I often fill my time with fashion design, figure drawing, poetry, and hiking (with hikes spanning Vancouver, Europe, and Central America). I'm building up my figure drawing portfolio slowly as I improve and I definitely wouldn't mind new subjects. Poetry has also been a huge inspiration for me. I usually listen to my Spotify playlist as it's littered with jazz, indie, and early ska. I also was a HUGE gamer and can talk indepth about it despite not having played in 3 years.  

Basically pouring my kinky big "heart" into this I do have a few hard boundaries such as knifeplay, anything involving children, diapers, blood, and scat. I do consider myself quite well rounded and I'd gladly answer questions.

About my appearance:

• 5'9", 6'5" in confidence because I love boots.
• Shaved head, no guard
• Deep glacier blue eyes
• Attractive, calm, and stern voice.
• Average Build with broad shoulders, slight fluff (155 lbs), getting into rugby shape again.
• Clean and trim beard
• I'm DDF, Vaccinated & Boosted w/Pfizer
• I do not smoke tobacco, seldom when offered during travel. Open to weed.

What I look for:

• 20-34 is ideal. (Not a hard rule, no one under-aged)   
• Active in both body and mind
• I workout regularly and look for the same.
• Preference for slim thick or petite
• Open to all colors.
• I appreciate someone who likes lingerie.

Feel free to message me in chat if this vibes with you.

Best, with great affection,

John