Hi,

I don't normally post here, but I'm curious to hear and hope to hear a different perspective other than mine. And that perspective is that I've been trying to get back into it (finding a relationship) after my disastrous first one that at the time I thought, and unfortunately like an idiot I assumed, was the "one," but nevertheless it did end well partly because he went out of his way intrinsically to avoid me for days/weeks, with no responses (calls / text ), and tried to juxtapose his distance by saying things that would soothe my mind; but then I realized when it ended that it wasn't a relationship to begin with. Frankly I was the only one that made the effort in doing so, hence it felt meaningless cause I can sense his complete lack of empathy when I try to be the one that was committed to being in an relationship only to find out in the in-between that I was being used.    My point with this, and I hope anyone can respectfully give me an answer, is that how can I go about as per to going into a relationship since I'm eager to be in one again; but it has been nothing but setbacks and delays thus it has made me incredibly discouraged and alone.

P.S: Before anyone asks I've done the self - healing. I've learn to love myself, but all in all I just want some advice to actively try again by being in a relationship, without getting discouraged or be trapped in the same predicament as I mentioned the first time.