I went to a circuit party after a while and was just trying to understand some things I experienced. Would love your 2 cents on these things since I'm not that familiar with the culture.

An IG gay (who approached me before 1:1 in other parties), who is friends with other 'muscle' IG gays, approached me and this time intro'd me to his IG gay friends (all gave hugs, all paired up except him and his other friend), said 'isn't he so handsome' to his friends, and said we should get a drink. I noticed they were mostly checking IG, interestingly not on drugs (and he doesn't drink either), and seemed mostly to be saying hi to who they knew with max 5 min convos and then heading off. Is that normal behaviour?

Met a couple I met at another party a year or so ago, one of whom seemed quite into me and sent me texts like he felt some emotional connection or something. I kept it light as I was not focusing on couples / open guys back then. He seemed 'annoyed' at me or something was off when the IG gay intro'd us (specifically using the word 'again' meaning he recalled me). Since I don't like bad blood I texted asking if all was good the next day, and he said the night was a blur and didn't remember meeting me and we should hang. He also mentioned the IG gay (who came up to me) is hosting a party so we could meet up there. I'm assuming he was just smoothing things out?

I was dancing with a dude I planned to go home with and typing on his phone because we couldn't hear eachother. We made plans to leave and some hot dude (who I thought was kinda out of my league, as in he wouldn't approach me) comes up to me and says I'm hot. I hand over my phone and said 'call me' (lol) and he put his number in with '[name of party] hot hung' next to it and followed up the next day wanting to hang soon. I did this because last time a hot Brazilian guy came up to me and I didn't give my phone as I felt it would be kinda 'unloyal/rude' to the dude I was with (which I regret till date), who eventually flaked on me after the night, so I was like this party happens once a season, why waste the opportunity. Somehow this made the guy I was dancing with even more into me (and seemingly the other dude also), probs because I could 'get someone else easily'. Then he told me in the car the dude already banged him before and he is average sized (which is fine with me so I will still probs meet him haha).

Generally I noticed when I would go by the bar or something to cool off/have a break, guys didn't seem to give me flirty eyes or anything (or maybe I'm bad at picking it up). They would dance or move near me tho. When I say hi or 'do I know you' then suddenly they open up and are like 'you are hot' or 'i was checking you out for ages' or something. I asked why they didn't just come up to me, do I look scary/intimidating/out of my mind, and almost all (over the course of the night) said they were shy (which was very surprising lol).

I get more attention from the hot guys when I am walking on the side or alone by the bar or something. When I'm dancing, random people just try and touch me from behind, rather than approach me from the front, but the more I'm by the bar the stranger it looks because then it looks like I'm not having a fun time. Wondering how others balance this out?

Overall I had fun, always do, but would like to be more clued up about the nuances for 2025.

(ps I went with a friend, but we do our own thing mostly, and check in via text :))