We broke up because we can’t stop fighting about stupid shit and boyfriend refuses to make any efforts to meaningfully resolve this. Went to couple’s counselor one time. He refused to go back. Refuses to get his own therapist. Our problems are all really stupid and resolvable, so it’s kind of heartbreaking.

I’m also newish to NYC, and he was my friend before we started dating. I became friends with all of his friends over a few years. So now I’m also simultaneously losing all my friends because they’re his friends first and foremost.

I’m so upset about this I kind of just want to vomit. But I also think we need to break up and that it’s not a healthy relationship even though I still love him.

What’s the best way to quickly meet new platonic friends here? Since I’m basically starting from scratch. I’m anticipating being really sad and lonely for a while. Don’t want to date or hook up. And the story of why I don’t have any friends is probably going to be kind of a downer that I’m going to have to tell over and over to everyone.

I live in East Williamsburg and frequently go out here and in Bushwick for DJs, etc. I don’t love Hell’s Kitchen.