After a very naughty first summer in NYC, I'm ready to calm down a bit and take dating more seriously. I'm definitely more of a relationship person and have been single for a few years while dealing with some instability in my life (Covid, career change, moving here etc).

That said, I'm not in a hurry to jump into a relationship and I'm looking to take my time to meet the right guy. I'm also planning on joining a book club and exploring some gay sports leagues to meetpeople organically in a more relaxed setting; I met TONS of people people through nightlife this summer but that rarely leads to dates lol. As much as they suck I'm also back on Hinge and Tinder.

For people who are currently making dating a priority/dating with intention:

• Where do you usually meet guys to go on dates?
• Do you have an personal rules around sex on a first date or do you go with the flow (I'm more the latter)?
• Any general thoughts on dating here in NYC would be helpful. I moved from Minneapolis which has a VERY small, incestuous and homogeneous gay scene which I hated, but dating here seems to difficult for all the opposite reasons!

Thanks in advance for the advice!