I love the small non-profit that I work for (small to the point of 4 employees and a handful of volunteers). I love the work that we do and the people we help. And I love working with all the staff - aside from the manager that I have to work with, day in and day out.

She is forgetful, changes arrangements to suit her and not the clients we're working with, is stubborn, and complains about things that I have already tried to fix.

Straw that broke the camel's back is that we are never invited to any community events in our area; it's a bone of contention she's complained about plenty (because she burnt a lot of those bridges before I got here - I don't know what happened but she can be abrasive at times when speaking to people). I went out of my way to contact one that I saw coming up, got us a table confirmed... Then nothing. The event is today, we have nothing planned, and the person we delegated to go, she has booked other work for at the time of the event. She hasn't even mentioned the event to me since I told her about it, and even then she brushed it off. I'm hoping that since she never responded to their follow-up email, they've already decided we're not coming, but I still feel like people will be like "Oh yeah, don't invite [Name] to anything, they won't show up."

I only work part time so there's only so much I can do when I'm in, but so much of my mind outside of work is taken up with thinking about new things we can do, or finding things that I can pass onto her related to the work we do. So it's exhausting when I feel she doesn't appreciate the effort that I've gone into, or the initiative I've used. I'm trying to adopt a policy where I just do the work she tells me to do, and nothing outside of that scope, and refuse to talk about work apart from the days that I'm in, but it's still there at the back of my mind, constantly.

Any advice for clearing my head outside of work? Like I said I love the job that I'm paid to do, but I just need to know how to let go of this excess baggage when I'm not there.