I’m dating this new guy and he checks nearly all the boxes… smart, educated, employed, well paid, good looking, funny, and likes to please a woman. Thing is, he’s just not that into me. It’s very casual right now, we don’t call or text that often, see each other even less. But every time we come together he’s gonna want to get naked. I don’t want to feel obligated to give my body to someone that I know is just in it for the booty. However, don’t want him out of my life completely because he’s a good guy and it might be a better situation in the future. Plus he’d actually make a pretty good friend. And I get it… any type of real commitment from him just isn’t going to happen right now, or maybe ever!

However, I’m 1 year into poly and learning about what I want and need in a relationship. A strictly casual relationship is fine, I just don’t want it to involve sex. i helped set the precedent, and now need to pivot. How do I de-escalate this relationship to friendly AND non-sexual without losing him? Is that even possible now?