My wife and I are best friends, lovers and soulmates. About four months ago, we decided we wanted more people to love and more people in our bedroom.

We are always together and never choose to split up and we didn't want to split up in the bedroom either.

We didn't want casual sex with couples. We didn't want to seek romance solo.

We had no idea that we were asking the universe for the impossible. Regardless, we found another couple that wanted exactly what we wanted.

They have kids. We have kids. Our kids really enjoy spending time with their kids. The families lock together like a magnet. We formed into a tribe instantly.

We live three hours away from each other.

Here are the relationship dynamics between the four of us:

My wife and I are married soulmates.

He and his wife are married soulmates.

My wife and his wife are a couple.

He and my wife are a couple.

His wife and I are a couple.

He and I are a couple. (It's a new thing)

Sexually, the four of us have sex in one room. The four of us have been together three times. The universe put up a lot of roadblocks. In hindsight, I really think it was because we all wanted sex but we weren't quite in love yet. Also sex in a four person setting has unforseen challenges. Getting comfortable with each other and getting to know each other and getting to know sexual preferences are all very important. We have yet to do PIV with anyone but our primary partners. That changes tomorrow night, though.

Recently, all the connections fell in love. My connection with his wife was the final piece. It's not something you can rush or something you can control. Now that it has happened, things have changed drastically.

It's hard to explain the vibe between the four of us. It's so good so happy. Being together feels like a next level human experience. It's life as never experienced before. It makes us feel so good that we put all our kids in the car and drive three hours each way EVERY weekend. Then, when we are not together, time drags and we long for each other. Thankfully we've discovered video calls. We get a call together almost every day. That really helps.

We did have a few hiccups. The guys in particular (admittedly) can be a little prickly about certain issues. I won't drag down the vibe of this post by going into details, but we've done really well working through things.

Being soulmates has trained the four of us the value of openness and communication. If you can communicate and be open to other people's ideas and perspectives, your relationship is bulletproof. My wife and I have been married for 13 years. They have been married for 15 years.

We've taken our 28 years of experience and applied it to our new foursome. We've been very successful navigating the issues that have arisen so far.

The last week has been really awesome. We all finally clicked into place. We have another weekend planned with them. We have an extra special event we're going to. There will be dancing and a pool and hot tubs and private rooms and sex in front of other people (if we want). lol We're excited.

There is a sort of funny thing too. We started the group chat with the name "The Fantastic Four". Weeks later, I made a joke and called it the "The Fantastic Foursome". It was funny but I didn't want to be rude or raunchy so we kept it between the two of us. Then my wife has too much to drink one night and it just slips out. Now, it's a thing. Some words cannot be unheard once you hear them. We all love it and think it's hilarious.

Anyway, life in all it's silliness and all it's seriousness has gotten really good for the four of us. We're talking about wearing matching wedding rings on our right hand ring fingers. We're talking about moving in together. That cannot happen for three years yet, but we're willing to wait. It's worth all the driving. Also we're going on a cruise together in a couple months.

Life is really good for us. I hope all of you out there reading this can have happiness like this someday too.