About a year ago I (43F) realized I am not straight. I came out to my boyfriend (43M) who I have been with for 4 years and he was surprised I hadn't figured it out. Lol. He is married with children and we have a wonderful, kitchen table-ish relationship. I live alone and the situation works really well for me because I feel a part of his family, but also have freedom to have lots other social connections and hobbies.

I have not dated anyone else during that time and felt content with the mono-poly dynamic. Recently, however, the thoughts and fantasies of being with a woman have gotten more frequent and intense and I'm nearly at a place where I would like to explore that side of myself.

I know there is work to be done and have compiled a reading list for both my partner and I to include Opening Up, PolySecure, The Ethical Slut, and Come As You Are. We have talked about this briefly and I have also requested that we do some things to ensure our relationship is as strong as it can be, including regular relationship check-ins, practicing some intimacy building activities, and thoroughly discussing to a list of rules, boundaries, and agreements.

My questions are: 1. Are there other things I can do to prepare us for this possibility? 2. I'm concerned about how I'll be received by women once I'm ready to actually start trying to date, especially given my age, lack of experience, and poly status. Does anyone have recommendations for how to approach this other than simply being up front and honest about those things right from the get go, which I 100% plan to do? I am aware of FEELD and plan to create profiles there when ready so this info can be out front. I'm also on r/latebloominglesbians to gather whatever insight I can from that community.