My wife and I recently posted in a Facebook poly group that is regional to our area. A married guy two towns away commented on both of our posts saying he was interested in chatting with us. I messaged him directly, chatted with him for about a half hour, and then he said he was going to message my wife directly, being she gave consent on the post. I was fine with it, being he was a nice guy and we had the same needs.

After chatting on and off with my wife for the last two days and filling her in on what they were looking for, he said he was going to "loop his wife in" to the conversation. I have his cell number and so does my wife and we have been texting, but I still dont have HIS wifes cell number, even though she is aware of the chats that have been going on. He told my wife he sort of "approves" who his wife is with sexually, which I respect. But is it not fair i cant even talk with her at the moment to get to know her since he has been chatting with MY wife? I mean, this IS a couples opportunity.

Am I wrong here?