I question if this disadvantages me in the lifestyle because I’m very picky with sexual partners and it’s a huge limitation for how thirsty my libido is. I want to have waaaaay more sex than I’m having, but can’t bring myself to do it with just anyone. Recently I went out with a married couple, and was not turned on by the husband at all, but when he was with his wife, he was attractive enough to sleep with. She really enhanced his personality and looks. He wants us to hangout separately and I declined. What I want is a threesome with them, mostly her. Is what I’m feeling normal? I’m in the lifestyle because I want to have more sex and to do it safely, but I can’t force myself if my body isn’t feeling it.
Oh placating. I’ve never heard it phrased like this. I appreciate the insight!
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Hi! I get excited when I see you comment because you seem to be very experienced.
I’m a single, mostly hetero, bi-curious unicorn looking for an open relationship. The husband plays solo, but not the wife. The husband and wife want a threesome with me, and I’m okay with that. The husband also wants a MFM threesome with me, but I’m not 100% sure about that. The only reason I’m still considering this is because the other male in this MFM is a regular and experienced FWB of mine whom I am very comfortable with. Having him there makes me feel safe.
Side Note: I’m quickly learning that having a safe masculine partner to share these experiences with opens up infinitely more possibilities than if I played alone. I previously dabbled with a stag-vixen dynamic, and I felt freer, safer, and more sexually open with men I wasn’t too attracted too than if I played solo. Part of this is trusting that my male partner trusts the other guy — Transitive trust if you will. I surrender to that trust while also selfishly pursuing my own pleasure. Idk if this is healthy. I am open to feedback though.